I was at a dinner table with my friend and we were about to place an order. It was late and I was too hungry. Checked my phone and my partner was busy with his work hence no replies from him. Meanwhile, I thought let me focus on my hunger and eat some food, suddenly a call comes to my friend! It’s his wife.
She is stuck in some place and unable to reach home. He told me the same and we immediately cancelled the order and walked out of restaurant to pick her up. On my way I just felt little disheartened that my hunger or me was not in my friend priority list, I was one of the options he would spend when he is free. Then I turned towards my phone and check on my Man to see if he can spare some time for me, but he was still busy at work and would not respond to me. I was again little disheartened that Business is priority for my Man over me at that moment.
I started questioning myself that will I be on top priority list for anyone? Will there be any special person in my life for whom my hunger is first priority over every other thing? Will I ever receive any such experiences in my life?
Then suddenly I stopped these questions popping out and thought why should I be on anyone’s priority list? Why can’t I be my priority? Why am I expecting anyone else to have me as their priority? Why can’t I have that expectations from myself and not others?
Yes, I got into my senses back. I realized that I should always be my first priority and not really look forward to be anyone else’s. If someone does as well, I am going to treat it as a bonus to life in addition to self-prioritization.
It is very important to be selfish at times and treat yourself as priority for you and then anyone else who is dear to you. There is nothing wrong in self-care, self-love or self-prioritization. These are all basic things that will keep one strong and improve our mental health.
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ReplyDeleteAuthor's Perception : "Then I turned towards my phone and check on my Man to see if he can spare some time for me, but he was still busy at work and would not respond to me. I was again little disheartened that Business is priority for my Man over me at that moment".
ReplyDeleteReally ? Below are my so called popped in questions while i was unstoppable :
1 .what if the women has blocked her man's number with not even informing anything ?
2. Here she is married and its too late for self prioritizing haha!! Should women with Self prioritizing on individuality should marry without even giving space to that man's space "with" her ? But these short time questions should not destruct or dishearten the relationship which was meant for long term heartful peaceful inspiring journey.
Her Mans reality in actual : May be he is busy cooking the favorite dish she likes or may not like which should not be a big damn thing for her if shes really hungry. Its her duty/wish/aspiration to come home and have it with him on a candle light dinner table.
My opinion : Love that lasts is the result of partners embedding themselves in each other’s brains in a positive way. Memory circuits and pleasure get all wound up together so that the other person becomes integral to the very structure of your brain, and you become part of the structure of theirs. Don’t be afraid to give voice to your love.
No Thanks !